Episode 1 – Don’t Compare Your Situation, Life, Circumstances to Others!
How often do you hear a mom complain about her situation or compare her situation to someone else’s?
This blog post is intended specifically for the SAHM, WAHM, Homeschool Mom, Single Mom, Grandmother or Parent.
Life has a way of keeping us in the present and doesn’t always allow for extra projects and activities. What am I talking about, well let me just say I wanted a space where I could share me and my feelings about motherhood, blogging, life in general, my faith and so much more…
Well that is what my blog is about, but I haven’t really, really given the daily dose of reality to you.
While there are many different definitions of what a good mom is and who is best capable to raise children, let’s not get caught up in all that.
The truth is, being a Mom is hard. Really hard!!! Some days you are not even sure if you can get a hot shower. Hey, just keeping it real. (I do shower most days and no I do not smell!).
Being a Mom is the hardest and most rewarding job at the same time. Do I love being a Mom? Yes, most days, other days I question if these are really my children and where is my sanity!
I am not here to bash my children and marriage in no way. There are times however, that it is just overwhelming. With all of the tasks, errands, grocery shopping, homeschooling, planning, transporting, cleaning and everything else it takes to manage a household, it leaves little time for me as a Mom.
Is that selfish? No it is not. If a Mother or Parent doesn’t have that time that they need to recharge and refresh, they won’t be any good to anyone else. They will experience:
- mood swings
- health issues
Mom’s don’t get caught up in the busyness of trying to compare your situation, financial status or yourself to someone else. You never know what people are going through or had to go through to get to where they are right now. We only see the manifestation or end results of their situation.
When we compare ourselves to others, we may feel:
- the need to join the bandwagon
- copycat (instead of being who we are)
How does one correct this mindset and type of thinking you might ask?
Well, let’s talk about it. Let’s try not to de-value who we are and the importance of our role as a Mom. Mom’s have the hardest job there is. We are teaching, training, and shaping the personalities of the next generation of leaders. That is an important role not to be taken lightly or advantage of.
Here are a few ways we can refocus our mindset as a Mom:
- Being Empowered
- Having Self-Confidence
- Establishing a Plan
- Setting Personal Goals
- Focusing on Strengths
- Using Weaknesses to Improve Oneself
- Daily Affirmations
- Establishing a Prayer or Quiet Time
- Reflecting on the Positive
- Surrounding Yourself with Positive People
Keeping a journal is an excellent way to jot down ideas, scriptures, inspiring words and a way to reflect. Creating a schedule for your household, budget and cleaning schedule, helps with home organization. Employ the children to help with household chores. Take your breaks when help is offered. Don’t sabotage your help when it comes. Most of all embrace who you are and your role as a mom. Be thankful for this opportunity to be a mom and continue to be encouraged and just know that you are not alone.
Leave me a comment below if this post applied to you or if you have experienced mom comparison. How did you overcome it?