I have noticed in the past and in recent weeks that my attitude has been less than exceptional and for good reason most of the time. However, when my attitude is not in check, I notice my children model the behavior that I have been displaying in front of them. I have also noticed that when I have a positive attitude and peaceful demeanor, my children are more reserved and calm (for the most part).
The key to maintaining a balance between both areas (home and public) is to behave the same all of the time. Model the behavior you want your child to display. It is not just “Do as I say and not as I do” philosophy anymore. My children will quickly remind me if I forget to behave. Example: In my house saying “Shut-up” is considered a bad word. Yes, I know we trained them that way. We have taught our children to be more respectful and say words like: be quiet, stop talking, hush, stop making noise, close your mouth… (you get the point). I like to have peace and quiet in the house so I can hear myself think, does this happen all of the time? NO! As parents, we all know when we have hit that breaking point and we have already used all of the safe words – but sometimes, children don’t seem to respond unless you use that oh so bad one, then you have their attention!
My point is, sometimes we have our moments when we didn’t handle a situation correctly, didn’t respond properly, we acted out of character, didn’t exercise self-control, participated in gossip or drama, said words not worth repeating-degrading or improper language, especially when driving (don’t judge – we have all been there!) and guess who’s watching our behavior? Our children! They see all our imperfections whether we try to hide them or not. They see us in our true selves, because we often let our guard down at home and perhaps some parents behave quite differently in public depending on the situation.
I repeat – Model the behavior you want your child to display. It is not just “Do as I say and not as I do” philosophy anymore.
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